The previous commit 58ab66e added ssh/tailssh/user.go as part of
working on #4945. So move some more user-related code over to it.
Updates #cleanup
Change-Id: I24de66df25ffb8f867e1a0a540d410f9ef16d7b0
Signed-off-by: Brad Fitzpatrick <bradfitz@tailscale.com>